Jesus was walking along the path one day when he saw a fig tree that was barren. He knew that figs were in season but this particular tree, despite taking the Earth’s resources in sunlight and rain chose not to give anything back in the form of fruits. That is why Jesus cursed the fig tree causing it to die and wither away.
Relationships are the same way. If you want something you have to give something. Otherwise, your relationship is cursed just like the fig tree. Often Filipinos seeking a relationship with foreign men have the attitude that because they are dating someone older than them that means he should be the only one to give. Foreign guys often think that because they are the ones shouldering the expenses that his partner should be a servant.
You’re not like that…oh really?
Relationships aren’t about keeping score, they are about respect. Many of my readers have heard me say this before and their response is almost always: Oh I’m not like them.
Are you sure? You say you want a genuine relationship but yet in the first conversations with a new guy you’re complaining about your financial woes or that your phone is crappy. Who cares if your phone is crap? Get a job, save some money, and get a better phone. Would you walk up to a stranger in SM and tell him your phone is crappy and expect him to care? So why should we?
Are you sure? You say you want someone that will genuinely love you but yet in the first conversations you’re asking him to send you photos of his dick and do dirty video calls with you. Who cares if you are horny and it’s been a long time? Whether you like it or not most young guys aren’t interested in men twice their age because they are beautiful to them. If you want him to genuinely love you then you need to show him that you interest in him is genuine–through deeds & time
What do you really want?
Be honest. If you fall into either of those categories then you’re not looking for love. You’re looking for a one-sided relationship that benefits you. The good news is most people in this category get what they deserve which is nothing. Most Filipinos looking for cash just end up wasting a whole lot of cum for nothing and most foreigners just looking for ‘young & fresh meat’ end up older and more alone than they were before. Serves them right.
Listen, if you’re not willing to love someone 20 years your senior with no money involved then you have no business talking to men from the west. If you’re not willing to love someone who requires that you shoulder most of the expenses but still expects to be treated as an equal then you have no business talking to Filipinos.
Don’t Muzzle The Ox
Think about your past relationships with people. If you had a friend that was constantly coming over to your home, eating your food, and watching TV yet never gave anything back would you keep that friend very long? We both know the answer to that. The Bible says not to muzzle the ox pulling the grain wheel for a reason. If the ox is putting effort into pulling the wheel then give him his due. If your partner is shouldering all the expenses then give him his due. I understand you may not be able
Hell Hath No Furry
Arne Erhard Johansen is 70-year-old Dane living in Iloilo City in The Philippines. He was recently hospitalized clinging on to his life after suffering multiple stab wounds to his abdomen. His Filipina girlfriend says that he stabbed himself after an argument with her. Most other expats believe that she stabbed him after he informed her the relationship was coming to a close and he never intended to give her a visa to Europe.
I’m not saying this is the norm but this is what can happen when you date someone for the wrong reasons. Mutual exploitation is still exploitation and it’s wrong. These people paid the ultimate price for their misdeeds. Hell hath no
Invest in Yourself
In order for a relationship to work both sides must be willing to invest in it. A relationship where only one side is giving is cursed just like the fig tree. Money and sex aren’t anywhere near close enough to what it takes to make a relationship work. The first step is to the have the right attitude. Whether he is 10, 20, or even 30 years older than you he is still your equal. Even if he is poor he is still your equal. If you are willing to invest to be matched with someone who understands this concept then set up a profile with Compatible Partners and make the investment. But even if you meet someone on Facebook or any other free site you will still have to make an investment if you expect a