Many brothers looking for a wife ask what types of Filipinas to pursue and what types of Filipinas to avoid. There are obvious types which are those who dress provocatively, complain about their finances, or use curse words but I want to go deeper than that; beyond the obvious.
Avoid Guys That Swear to Tell The Truth
Growing up my grandma used to always tell us there’s nothing worse in this world than a liar. One of the best ways to spot a liar is if he has to constantly swear he’s telling the truth. If he begins his sentences with ‘to tell you the truth’ or ‘honestly’ its because he’s worried that he won’t be believed. But why does a person who’s truthful need to worry that they won’t be believed?
Another good sign of a liar is if they give convoluted explanations. I remember when I was dating a boy and when I looked at her phone I saw him telling another guy ‘I love you’. When I confronted him about it he swore up and down that it was his best friend and they were just close. He gave this long convoluted explanation as to why he spoke that way with his cousin. It didn’t take a genius to figure out he was lying and that was indeed his real Filipino boyfriend.
Guys Who Tell Lies About Others–Even ‘White Lies’
I strongly advise guys to avoid those who tell lies about others. Even so-called ‘white lies’. Someone who is willing to lie about other people is certainly willing to lie about you. Furthermore, a gossip may be fun to listen to but gossips are typically the most vicious people out there.
We all gossip to some degree but someone who tells outright lies about others just to bring attention to themselves or achieve their own goals is a person with a black heart.
Attention seeking can go way beyond being scantily clad. If you are talking to a guy and you’re noticing he does things to draw attention to himself such as constant complaining about his life on social media, taking selfies everyday and posting them on Facebook, being boastful, or constantly gossiping he should be avoided.
The reason being is most attention seekers are insecure and need constant validation from others in order to make it through their day. These people often have deeply internal issues that you may not want to deal with.
Avoid Guys Who Are Disobedient To Their Parents
The parent is the first and foremost representation of God’s authority in our lives. There’s a reason that not only is the first commandment to honor your mother and father but the bible says no less than 20 times to respect your parents. God gave us a mother and a father so that we may receive guidance through life.
Now I’m fully aware that some homes are dysfunctional and some parents just aren’t that great. But a man who constantly speaks ill of his parents and is flagrantly disrespectful clearly has a problem respecting authority. If he won’t respect the authority of those who gave him life what makes you think he’ll respect you once he gets what he wants from you?
Stay Away From Guys Whose Parents Don’t Care
Before I moved to Bacolod I was in Iloilo first. My boyfriend was with me for an entire week while in Iloilo and then when we moved to Bacolod. Once we got to Bacolod I assumed his family would want to meet me. When I asked about it he said ‘oh they don’t care’. What the heck?!’ I thought. Your parents don’t want to know who their child has been spending the last week with, even more so because he’s from the other side of the world?! That wasn’t right.
This is true in America but especially in The Philippines, the fathers are supposed to be protective of their daughters. I’d be very wary of any guy whose parents allow their young daughter to go out with random guys by herself. If you’ve been talking to a guy and he hasn’t mentioned her family wanting to meet you and get to know you it is most likely because he’s had dozens of guys before you and they don’t care. More to the point the family is probably using him to extract money from vulnerable foreigners.
The more likely scenario if you’re dating a provincial guy is that her family will require a chaperone to accompany her when he’s with you. That means you’ll be paying for dinner for three.
Avoid Guys Who Are Ungrateful
The greatest pleasure in a relationship comes from sacrificing yourself for your partner. However, a guy that’s very handsome and thinks he’s doing you a favor by dating you is going to be very difficult to make sacrifices for. We all want gratitude and a guy that is ungrateful should be avoided no matter how pretty he is. What’s worse is an ungrateful guy will probably always be on the lookout for greener pastures i.e. a guy with more money.
A Man Who Won’t Forgive
Ask anyone who’s been married more than 5 years and they’ll tell you one of the most important aspects to keeping a marriage together is the ability to forgive. Now I’m not saying he should be a doormat but even if you are always on your best behavior you will undoubtedly do things that annoy or even infuriate her. A man who won’t forgive and holds grudges is not a man you want to be around. If you date a man like that expect to have things you did 5, or even 10 years ago, thrown back at you during an argument. I’d say living with a man like that is the closest thing to hell we have on Earth.
Lastly, Avoid A Guy That is Too Perfect
Some people may get the impression that I am advocating that you look for a perfect guy. I tell you the truth, there is no perfect guy. Every man you meet will be a flawed individual just as you are. Only you can determine which flaws you will accept and which ones you can’t.
However, a guy that just seems way too perfect is often not showing his true self. Remember many of these guys are desperate and will do anything to get out of their current situations. If he just seems too perfect then he’s probably not being honest. No human being is going to agree with you 100% of the time. No man is going to want to be subservient and take orders from you all the time. If your purpose for dating a guy in The Philippines is because you want a subservient partner who will take your orders with a smile then may I kindly suggest you get a dog instead.