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How to Get a Gay Foreign Husband!

Is it your dream to meet a foreign husband and move to a new land of better opportunity. Is it your desire to meet someone who can provide you with an opportunity for a better life for you and your family? If it is then read on. I’m going to show you how to meet a foreign guy that can open up whole new worlds that you never imagined!

That being said this is an article written for those in the Philippines and in South East Asia who are seeking a *genuine* bona fide relationship with a man from a western country. It is not intended to help gold digger scam artists. Most gold diggers don’t get much money anyway. Most of the time they get what they deserve instead.

The truth

The bad news. Getting a foreign gay daddy is hard. Shoot getting a gay daddy period is hard! But getting a foreign gay daddy is even harder. It’s so hard in fact that most Asians that try won’t succeed I’m sorry to say.

The good news. This article is going to help you to greatly increase your chances of getting a foreign husband and give you a serious leg up over your competition! Still, if you want that foreign prize you must work hard in order to stand above the rest!

Young and thin isn’t enough

“I’m young and thin” Some pinoys have the mind set that because they’re young and thin that they are doing an older foreigner a favor by dating them.  Okay so you’re young and thin. And? You and about 1,840,000 other Filipinos!

According to the Philippine Statistical Authority about 40% of the Philippine population are males under than age of 30 (36,800,000).  American estimates are about 3.8-5% of the American population is LGBT.  If we apply that same model to the Philippines (although I suspect its higher here) out of 36,000,000 Filipino males under the age of 30 approximately  1,840,000 of them are gay or bisexual.

In other words being young and thin isn’t special here.

If you want to be successful at getting a foreign husband just being young and thin isn’t going to cut it!  Think of getting a foreign husband just like getting a prestigious job.  If you want the best job (I’m not saying a foreigner is the best husband by the way) you’ve got to stand out! You are competing with other job candidates for that position.  So you must ask yourself ‘how do I stand out?’.

Just like if you want a prestigious employment position or to be admitted to a prestigious university meeting the basic requirements is never enough. Well neither is getting a foreign husband which leads me to my next point.

You must stand out!

Lets start off by going over some basic requirements that I’ve noticed most foreigners seeking a husband/partner in Asia are looking for. This is not meant to say the represents all foreign men but it’s a good guide to be able to at least get your foot in the door with most foreign guys

  • Younger than him (under 35)
  • Thin and/or in good physical condition
  • Soft spoken (I haven’t seen too many foreign guys with loud mouthed Asians)
  • Speaks enough English to have a basic conversation in most parts of Asia and in the Philippines the minimum would be an intermediate level of English
  • At least somewhat submissive
  • A pleasant disposition
  • A bottom or at least versatile*

*this has been controversial but I stand by it. Most foreign bottoms that travel internationally for companionship or even to live go to Black countries. I haven’t met one pure foreign bottom that has specifically traveled to Asia for a partner. That means if you insist on being a top only it will be difficult for you to find companionship unless you make your dick bigger. 

Now we’ve gone over the basic requirements lets go over how to stand out. The best way to stand out is to accentuate your gifts. We all have gifts given to us by God. It is up to us to accentuate whatever those gifts are in order to stand above the rest.

If you are smart make sure he knows it by having intelligent stimulating conversations with him.  When I meet a guy in the Philippines that has something interesting to say and can talk about something besides Ms. Universe,  gossip about other people , or other young immature gay nonsense I am immediately impressed and a lot of other foreign guys are as well.

Are you a hard worker? He’ll see it by the amount of time you spend on your tasks. That’s a turn on for a lot of guys.

Is your faith important to you? Many foreign guys are looking for guys with good values and faith. When I meet a guy that actually goes to church on a regular basis and can cite a bible verse it’s a turn on. Not all gay foreigners will feel this way but most foreigners that come to the Philippines at least tend to lean on the conservative side of the spectrum.

Don’t worry about looks so much

Looks do matter but they’re not as important you may think. Many foreigners find a large spectrum of Filipinos attractive.  So long as your are not obese and are under 35 you’re fine.  I actually tend to avoid guys that are very handsome (or think they are very handsome).

Why do foreigners always take the ugly guys?

Most foreigners that come to Asia are over the age of 35 and we have already realized that beauty fades but dumb is forever.  My experience is handsome guys tend to have a poor attitude. They just have an air about them that they deserve to be treated like a king and some of them have even acted like they were doing me a favor by dating me. *boy bye!*

The so-called ‘ugly’ guys just tend to be more humble and they put more effort into pursuing me. If we foreigners see a guy is willing to travel 2 hours to see us it gives him an edge over the guy that thinks we should do most of the effort because we are ‘rich’ he is handsome.

I’ll take a so-called ‘ugly’ guy any day of the week over a so-called ‘handsome’ guy that thinks he’s doing me a favor by going out with me.

Don’t be too choosy!

I met a guy online in Cebu Philippines. He was educated, soft spoken, and seemed like a nice young man that was genuinely open to dating someone older than he was. Well, I flew to Cebu to meet him and from the very beginning I could tell he wasn’t into me. His attitude was one of forced interest. I proposed more than once that we simply part ways amicably but he kept making up excuses like ‘oh I’m just getting to know you’ ‘I’m not used to it’ blah blah blah.

After a few days we went to Oslob (another city in the Philippines) . On the way to Oslob to swim with whale sharks I caught him flirting with other straight Filipinos on facebook. Furious I told the driver to turn around. It lead to big situation but ultimately I asked him to leave my hotel room and he ended up with nothing and still single.

But that’s not the reason I’m sharing this story with you.

After I asked him to leave do you know how long it too me to find someone else? Six hours!

That’s why I’m sharing this with you.

My young white American friend who was interested in dating Asians described the situation to me as a ‘buffet of guys’. He had the ability to choose whomever he wanted.

You must understand that we foreigners have *a lot* of options. I’m not saying this to degrade you , or degrade Asians or make it seem like Asians are disposable.

They aren’t.

Asians are gorgeous human beings with a lot to offer any foreigner. I’m just trying to make you understand the reality of the situation in order for you to have the proper attitude so you can achieve the foreign husband of your dreams.

Listen, everyone has the right to accept or reject to date whomever they wish for whatever reason they wish but if you want a foreign husband you’ve got to be realistic.  God sends us who he thinks is best for us not necessarily who we fantasize about.

Probably you fantasize about a relationship that looks like this:


But the above photo is the exception my friend. In reality the chances are your relationship will look more like this

or this

or maybe even this! *gasp*


Maybe that’s not something you want to hear and I should could sell this article to more people if I promised to provide you a 25 year old white athlete but reality doesn’t conform to our wishes. Yoda was wrong the force isn’t with you.

If you want to be successful in landing a foreign husband you will seriously have to put your innate desire for a hunky, young, straight guy aside.

If you can’t see yourself genuinely loving and being with a man that is at least 10 years older than you and fatter than you then I suggest you don’t look for a foreign husband.

Drop the racism

I know I know I’m asking you to drop thousands of years of Asian tradition and culture that has taught you that ‘white is right’ and that white skin is the pennicle of beauty but times have changed and if you want to be successful you must change with them.

As a foreigner one thing I see far too often is some Pinoys, once they get to a certain level, think that dating a Black is beneath them.  They feel that they’ve worked so hard to get to the level where they are why should they lower themselves to dating a Black guy?

Well you can think that way and stay in the Philippines at your current economic level. If you really want a foreign husband you’ve got to open your mind.

Meet Clarence (name changed)

He is a Black American that came to the Philippines in search of a wife. There were got plenty of poor lower class women throwing themselves at him but he wasn’t interested in a woman like that. He wanted an educated more sophisticated women that would bare him intelligent children. He knew it would be more difficult as a Black man but he decided to try. After meeting a bunch of bar girls and educated girls that were obviously just seeking a sugar daddy he was about to give up and search in another country. However, before leaving the Philippines he had a toothache that he needed to get checked out.

Now meet Rose (name changed)

She is a Filipina doctor (a dentist). While on her on-the-job training in a dental office she was approached by a large Black American who needed some dental work done. At first she was scared of him but then they began talking. She kind of liked him but when he asked her out on a date she wasn’t so sure.

“I worked hard to get to this point. Why should I date a Black?’

She thought. But she decided to just go for it! She went ahead and accepted to date him. She endured a lot of criticism from some of her friends and a few family members for dating a Black.

Fast forward one year later they married and residing in San Diego California. Fast forward 15 years later she is still married to him and is a United States citizen!

Her and her husband own a home and she is a practicing dental assistant for the Untied States federal government and is helping her family back in the Philippines. While the marriage isn’t perfect (what marriage is?) she reports that she is very happy. After all is she wasn’t she could’ve divorced him by now.

All those people who criticized her for dating a Black man and all those who thought they were too good to date a Black man are still in the Philippines, or being treated as Filipino slaves in Dubai, and are still poor.

How do I know this? Because she’s my step mother!



“I’d rather stay poor than date a Black man!”

Well if that’s your mindset then I can’t help you. You certainly have a right to feel that way but consider this.

While the media often portrays Blacks as violent gangsters  its an exaggeration.

Media portrayal of Black Americans

Yes some of them can be violent (just like some Asians) but that doesn’t represent the whole population.  Most Blacks are hard working people that just want to make a living like everyone else. A Black man was the President of the United States for goodness sakes!

Here’s some data you might find interesting. Black income in America has grown exponentially in the last 30 years according to Nielson (an American statistical research organization).  In some years it’s even grown faster than that of white Americans!

Black university/college enrollment is growing at a fast rate and is at an all time high in America!

You truly are missing an opportunity if you decide not to date someone based on their race.

Let’s talk about sex

Sex is an important part of any relationship. It can literally make or break your relationship. It can be your greatest tool or your worst enemy when it comes to getting a foreign guy.  In this section we’re going to talk about basic principles to make sure sex is your greatest tool.

Don’t have sex on the first date! 

Your mother was right save yourself for when he deserves it. If you give him your body on the first date you’re just going to look like a whore and he’s going to treat you like one! It looks very desperate to me when a guy has sex with me on the first date.

When my current partner and I were just talking he made it clear the most I was going to get from him on the first date was a hug. That turned me on so much! It made him seem as though he was a man of morals and self respect.

Do show affection

On that same note, however, he can’t feel like you’re just avoiding intimacy and affection because you’re not attracted to him. If avoid affection he’ll begin to think you’re just another gold digging scammer trying to get something for nothing.

Don’t do that. While you definitely shouldn’t give up your goodies right away you should still touch him, hug him, kiss him on the lips etc.

Talk is cheap!

You *must* show him that you are genuinely attracted to and interested in him with your actions!

Your sex should be great! 

When you do decide he’s earned your body you must make it worth the wait! That doesn’t mean you have to be an expert in sex or a ‘sexpert’. It si

Here are a few tips to make your sex game great

  1. Kiss him! Kiss him a lot!  Kissing an important part of American and other western cultures. We foreigners loved to be kissed!  Don’t kiss him too much though. It has to seem natural. Imagine the hottest straight guy and how and how much you would kiss him. That’s what you need to do with your foreign boyfriend.
  2. Moaning is a must but not exaggerated fake moans. Think about that time you got f*cked by that hot straight guy; how much you loved every stroke of his penis inside of you and how you couldn’t *wait* to have his semen go inside your body. Think about the moans you made then. Those are the same kinds of moans you need to make with your foreign partner.
  3. Re-enforce your moans with words.  Tops  of *any* nationality love to think they’re the king in bed. They love to hear that they have a big dick or that their dick is so good inside you.  Some useful phrases in English to say during sex are “oh give it to me daddy!” “ooh fuck me baby!” “oh yeah just like that!” “yes daddy! yes daddy” “oh my gawd its so good!” . But just like the moans it can’t seem like you’re faking it. The actually words aren’t important; whats important is that they sound genuine!
  4. He needs to feel love and intimacy so make sure you smile and run your hand down his face like in the following video.
  5. Make the first sex all about him. Remember has a lot of guys to choose from. Sex is your method of binding him to you so it’s got to be all about him at least the first couple of times. That means  If he asks you to suck his dick. Do it! If he asks you to lick his ass. Do it (if its clean)! If he asks you to lick and suck on his nipples. Do it!  Bad sex can ruin everything you’ve worked for!

If you don’t get it right the first time don’t worry. Just try and keep trying until you do.

Let’s talk about love

Stop saying I love you on the first or second date for God sake! !  Real love takes time and is very difficult to fake. It’s always the little things that give a scammer away. You know you don’t love after the first date and he knows you don’t love him after the first date or the first meeting.

So why say it? If you say ‘I love you’ too quickly you’ll just make yourself seem insincere and reduce yourself to being a one night stand at worst or just his f*ck boy at best. Unless he’s a sad desperate human being he’ll never marry a guy he knows is insincere.

Love will come just give it time. Even if he’s not your normal type of guy find something you do love about him and focus on that. Maybe he’s fat and old so what? He could also be a very nice man that will treat you as his prince.

If he’s tall and you like tall guys focus on that. If he’s articulate and intelligent focus on that! Every human being has something positive about them. Find that and focus on it

What ever you do please don’t focus on his money or his passport!  

If  you try to build love on your mind by just focusing on the ultimate goal your actions will inadvertently show that! You may accidentally say the wrong thing  or make the wrong action that tips him off that you just want his money or a visa.

Focus on pleasing your partner

I’ve worked in sales pretty much my entire adult life. One of the biggest mistakes I see young salesmen make is to try to focus on making the sale. Why is that a mistake? Because when you just try to focus on making a sale you unknowingly come off as desperate, insincere, or just flat out untrustworthy that no one wants to buy from.

The best way to make a sale is to focus on the needs of you potential customer and how what you have to offer can fulfill those needs.  Its the same with getting a foreign husband. He’s looking for a young man to make him happy for the rest of his days. Focus on pleasing your partner. if he loves you he will focus on pleasing you too.

If you’re just in it to get a foreign sugar daddy that you can take advantage of then chances are good you’ll end up being the one who’s exploited. Usually exploited for sex.


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